Disability Dates
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5 Helpful Tips For Disabled Dating
Do you need a hand in the disabled dating world? Are you signed up to a couple of internet dating websites but don’t seem to be having much luck? Maybe you are going on plenty of first dates, but don’t seem to be getting that all-important second-date callback? Whatever the problem, don’t despair. Help is at hand.
Here are 5 helpful tips for disabled dating:
1 – Don’t make your relationship all about your disability.
The barriers of internet dating far outweigh the barriers that will face people in the ‘regular’ dating community. There are things you can’t do, places you can’t go, interests you can’t explore…
There are already limitations put on your relationships because of your disability, so why would you highlight them even further and make your disability the one thing that governs your entire dating life, or future relationships?
Come to terms with your disability, learn how to live with it, and then look at how you can fit your disability in around your dating, not the other way around.
2 – Ensure you can laugh at yourself.
Being ‘different’ from other people is hard work sometimes, but the one thing that will always see you through is a jolly good sense of humour. You are going to have bad dates, but that’s because you’re dating, not because you are disabled.
Sadly, that’s just part of dating life – sometimes you need to take the rough with the smooth, and learn to laugh at those men and women that you can’t believe you just wasted a couple of hours on.
3 – Don’t take things too seriously.
So what if you don’t find love right away, you might make some really good friends out of it, and when you think about it, you’re still adding to your network, giving you more and more chances to meet that special someone.
Go on dates with men you wouldn’t normally go on dates with, and try a new dating approach entirely. Sometimes it pays to think outside the box, and if things haven’t been going well for you with your regular dating approach, perhaps it’s about time to looked at things a little differently?
4 – Be upfront about your disability.
It’s always tough to be upfront about the thing that makes you ‘differently-abled’ to other people, and you must be careful that you don’t attract any unwanted attraction (for example, a disability fetish!). However, you’ll often find that being open and honest about your disability will weed out the time-wasters straight away. Those that will read your profile will either choose to continue reading after they have found out about your disability, or they won’t.
Either way, you won’t know, and it won’t bother you.
5 – Don’t be afraid to use ‘regular’ dating sites.
Just because you have a disability doesn’t mean you can’t find love on a regular dating site, such as the one all your friends are using. Just be open and honest about your disability, and the same rules apply. People will either like you enough to carry on reading, or they won’t. However, all things considered, you may well have more dating success on a disabled dating sites like Amputee Dating Club which has been around for years and has loads of members.
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3 Best Practices For Disability Dating
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3 Best Practices For Disability Dating
If you’re delving into dating for the first time after becoming disabled, or you just haven’t been single in a long time and aren’t sure how to do things anymore, don’t worry. You won’t be destined to spend your life single and alone. You won’t be on the shelf getting dusty forever. You just need to take a minute, breathe, and then make a plan.
One of the best practices for any dating, not just disability dating, is to work out what you want and what you are looking for before you even begin to think about signing up to any internet dating websites.
Are you looking for love? What kind of love? A few-months? Or a lifetime? Do you want a one-night stand, or are you genuinely on the hunt for someone to marry, settle down with, and have kids with, hopefully to carry on happily ever after?
It’s not fair for you to sign up without any clue what you are looking for because not only will you be wasting your own time, you’ll be wasting the time of any dates you get talking to. What’s the point in going after the one-night-stand guy, if you’re looking for someone to fall in love with, and have never particularly enjoyed casual sex anyway? Think about it. Be realistic.
Second best practice for disability dating – just be open about your disability. Sometimes it will get embarrassing, and occasionally, you won’t be able to do things that other couples can do, but that’s just fine. Laugh it off. Develop a sense of humour about your love life as you do about anything else in life, and become a better person because of it.
Negativity isn’t sexy. Neither is wallowing in self pity.
The third and final best practice for disability dating – don’t be an idiot. Don’t think that you deserve better (or worse) treatment just because you are differently-abled, and don’t expect your date to be a mind-reader either. That hot guy that you met last night may have stumbled over his words and said some really stupid things about the fact you were in a wheelchair, or stumbled with your walking stick and bumped into another table, but he’s not necessarily a jerk. He could just be intrigued. Don’t jump to the wrong conclusions – wouldn’t you rather he talked about it and asked questions (regardless of how stupid or inappropriate) than disregarded you entirely just because of it?
If you have things that need to be said, or you don’t like what he just asked you, be open about it. You’ll be amazed at how much of a powerful aphrodisiac real honesty is, and although there are likely to be some bumps in this disability dating road, at least what you’ll have, even if it is just friendship, will be based on honesty and truth rather than something faked or covered up.
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