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Who Else Wants To Be Successful With Dating Disabled?
Are you sick of seemingly being on the bottom of the dating pile amongst your friends and work colleagues, still single after years of trying to find the perfect match, while everyone gets coupled off, married, and then have a couple of babies?
You don’t really know where you’re going wrong. You’re not bad-looking, and you think you’re pretty funny. All of your friends tell you you’re funny all the time, anyway. You have a good job, no too-weird habits, and you have a lot to offer a guy. You just don’t seem to have much luck meeting them, and when you do meet them, they are instantly put off by the fact that you are deaf.
Being a single, dating a disabled girl is definitely hard work, especially when the disability is something as intense as losing your sense of sound, or sight!
Communication is vital in a relationship, and most men have the common misconception that dating a deaf, or otherwise disabled woman, is too much hard work to handle. Admittedly, there are certain restrictions and changes that will need to be made to accommodate the disability, but it isn’t the be-all and end-all of your life…
That’s the thing most people have trouble understanding.
It’s hard to see beyond the wheelchair when you don’t know the guy sitting in it, and it’s hard to look past the hearing aid when the girl is so intently lip-reading you, you can’t work out whether she’s happy or sad. Plus, you have a habit of looking away when you talk to girls…. That makes dating a deaf girl almost impossible!
One of the very first things that you need to be able to do in order to be successful with dating disabled sites is learn to get on with life, almost as if your disability doesn’t exist. When you are happy and competent, happy with your own skills and loving life, people will be attracted to you, and when they are attracted to your positive outlook, they will want to talk to you. When they talk to you, they’ll get to know you a little better, and when this happens, love can flourish.
Sadly, the dating world is a very shallow one, as much as you would like to think nobody even notices your disability anymore, the people that don’t know you, will.
It’s how you deal with things that will make you look more appealing to the opposite sex, and if you laugh difficult and awkward situations off, a potential new mate won’t be able to help but fall in love with your personality. After all, isn’t that what really matters?
In order to be successful with deaf dating or disabled dating, you need to be happy with yourself. You need to know and appreciate your own limitations but at the same time, never stop trying to better yourself. With a positive outlook for life, people will want to be a part of yours!
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Top FAQ’s About Dating A Disabled Person
As a group of friends, all with a disability, all looking for love, we’ve heard pretty much every question you can think of when it comes to dating a disabled person, and we thought it might be really handy to list them all down to give some of you a helping hand.
Some of these questions are pretty cringe-evoking, so may we suggest not asking these out loud to prevent causing offence?
Andrew was asked this question from a girl he was on a second date with – “Are you still able to have sex?”
He had multiple sclerosis and occasionally needed to rely on a wheelchair but as far as his manhood was concerned, everything worked pretty well, and he’d had no complaints up until that point. You’d be amazed at how many times that question comes up, and although occasionally the answer will be “no”, more often than not, the question just causes offence. Wait for your date to bring up any problems, it’s not down to you to bring it up.
Kate was asked this question, just as she was getting ready to go on her first date with a man her best friend had set her up with. He sent her this via text – “Doesn’t it annoy you that you can’t do what your partner is up to all the time, if you date someone that isn’t disabled?”
Her answer to this was: “No, not until an idiot like you brings it up!”
In her eyes, she was just as able to do everything a potential partner could do, despite her restriction of being blind. She had been blind for her entire life, and had learned to live with it in the best way that she could. An active girl, she always had a boyfriend on the go, and for someone to turn around and ask her whether or not she basically felt inadequate because of her disability really ruined her day. She didn’t date for a whole month after that, just out of protest!
Being really condescending to a disabled person about their disability is something your mother should have taught you is very rude. There is no need for it, and what makes it worse is the fact this guy actually assumed she had more limitations with regards to her disability than she let herself have. Kate had never let being blind getting in the way of her life, love life or otherwise, and for a man to suggest just that really got to her.
It should teach you a very vital lesson – don’t assume that someone that is disabled can’t do things, and never, ever patronise or condescend them. They are used to getting ‘grief’ because of their disability, and they’ll likely have a killer comeback that’ll leave you looking foolish.
In short, the best way to master dating a disabled person is to open your mind. Not every disability means that restrictions will be made on your relationship or your love life, and dating a disabled person is no different from dating a regular-abled person. Some of your dates may change, but that’s about it!
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How To Find The Right Disabled Dating Websites For You
Just because you have a disability doesn’t mean that dating isn’t for you. A lot of people find it very difficult come to terms with a sudden disability, and for those that have had theirs since birth, it’s still no easier when it comes to finding a potential new mate. Let’s be honest about this – dating was hard enough to begin with, without throwing in something that adds MORE challenges!
The good news is that there are some GREAT disabled dating websites out there, and when you sign up to one of these, you are getting the ‘surprise’ element of your disability out the way. You have the chance to meet someone with the same outlook on life as you do, with the same or similar restrictions as you do because of their own disability. When you sign up to a disabled dating website, its pretty clear what you’re going to be getting, so there are no nasty surprises.
There are a couple of things that may sway your thoughts when it comes to finding the right sites for you. Do you want to pay for the site, for example? You can get plain and simple dating sites designed for differently-abled people, and they work in exactly the same way as other ‘regular’ dating sites.
There are many of these free sites out there, but there’s always the risk of bonkers people messaging you out the blue, either with a fetish for disabled dating, or just someone so weird, you couldn’t face meeting them. There is also a higher chance of getting scammed on these freebie sites, so you must ensure you are protecting yourself and your personal details as much as possible.
There are some more in-depth disabled dating sites out there; ones that offer agency-style services where you meet up with the organisation, and are matched up with potential partners based on what a REAL person thinks, rather than what a computer puts together. With such a delicate subject as disabled dating, sometimes that little personal touch can make all the difference.
You’re going to want to make sure that you use a website that is legitimate, and one that keeps your details safe. Always make sure you do some research of your own before signing up to any website, and see what other people have said about it before you join. Most online dating sites, disabled or otherwise, have online reviews somewhere so simply Googling the name of the site followed by the word ‘review’ is enough to give you a lot of the information you need to know. Or better still, check out this wonderful disabled dating reviews web site that we found called Disabled Dating Review.
Some disabled dating websites give you more options than others, with the chance to play games online, video chat, send gifts (virtual or otherwise) and more. If you’re looking for a website that will do the job of many, these with their relatively inexpensive membership fees aren’t a bad idea. When you have the option of playing games, not everything is about talking, and it gives the perfect chance to check out how competitive you both are!
If you are looking for niche disabled dating like for deaf dating or wheelchair dating, we recommend Deaf Dating Club and Wheelchair Dating Club. They have been around for many, many years and are well established.
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